Monday, April 30, 2012

NOSTALGIA!

I couldn't believe it when I was perusing one of my high school friend's Facebook pictures and she actually had a picture of the drive-in where all the kids cruised and parked and talked. It was called "Stanley's" and it was the Happening Place to be.  It's many, many years gone now, but oh how my heart jumped with excitement when I saw this photograph. I thought I'd never see it again. What memories!!!


A burger for 65 cents? A steak sandwich for 45 cents? Milkshake for 30 cents? WOW!
 


8 YEAR OLD GUITAR WHIZ JAMS WITH BUDDY GUY




THIS DAY'S



When we are humble enough to allow God to fill us with His love, a miracle happens.

~Kim Moore
This Day's Verse
 
"For I am with you, and no one will attack and harm you, for many people in this city belong to me."
 
Acts 18:10
The New Living Translation
This Day's Smile

What is home?
A world of strife shut out- a word of love shut in.
The only spot on earth where faults and failings of fallen humanity are hidden under the mantle of charity.
The father's kingdom, the children's paradise, the mother's world.
Where you are treated the best and grumble the most.

~Unknown

Sunday, April 29, 2012

POSITIVE THOUGHTS

Have faith in yourself and in the process of life.
 

Living out loud means having the courage to be exactly who you are without apology.  It means admitting your mistakes without beating yourself up.  It means not taking who you are and what you have for granted.  Release all shame!  Release all guilt!  You cannot live out loud if you are hiding behind what was.  Living out loud means focusing on what is, right now, and that is you!

To live out loud means showing up as your authentic self, without your makeup or your toupee.  It means acknowledging your shortcomings and celebrating your strengths.  Living out loud means broadcasting your needs, your likes and your dislikes as they relate to your fears and frustrations.  It means that you let people know exactly who you are and expect them to be as thrilled as you are about who you are.

In order to live out loud you must have faith in yourself and in the process of life.  You must have principles you live by and standards by which you can govern and gauge yourself.  Most important, in order to live out loud you must love yourself enough to tell yourself and everyone else the absolute truth about you.  When you can do that, you can live out loud and be very proud about what the world will hear about you.

Until today, you may have been living your life in a whisper.  Just for today, take one step toward pumping up your volume.  Stand up in yourself!  Stand up and be yourself!

~Iyanla Vanzant

Saturday, April 28, 2012

THE MAN OF MY DREAMS

The man of my dreams walked on water, calmed storms, 
miraculously healed people, and saved countless lives.



WELCOME!

WELCOME to my two newest Followers. I have finally made a couple of strides and it adds fuel to my fire. Like the hymn says, "All are welcome in this place."


~*~

HOWDY, TRUSSVILLE! I see you
visiting. No worries, all
are welcome in this place!


Thursday, April 26, 2012

MEDJUGORJE - April 25, 2012 Message to Marija


Today, April 25, 2012, Our Lady appeared to the visionary Marija and delivered the following message to the world:

"Dear children! Also today I am calling you to prayer, and may your heart, little children, open towards God as a flower opens towards the warmth of the sun. I am with you and I intercede for all of you. Thank you for having responded to my call."

I hear you, Mother, and I am listening to all that you say. Thank you for your intercessions on my behalf.   My gratefulness and love for you are eternal.

Abbey

Tuesday, April 24, 2012

REALITY BITES!

I'm compelled to comment on the subject of this post.  I know a lot of people, and even people that I do not know, who have gone through tribulations, whether by chance or resulting from their own actions, who react in one of two ways.  They either lay down and wallow in the mire, or they stand up and refuse to be beaten down.

I am an expert on this topic, you see.  Through many years living from Texas to California to Texas, back to California and then to the South, I have made some huge mistakes and poor decisions.  I have lost loves and cried a river and it got me nowhere.  Then in hindsight, I think about people and places and turns of events, and I laugh at myself.  I say "why in the world did you behave like a beaten animal over THAT?"  And then I laugh.

In first raising my daughter to age 8 as a single parent, I wasn't allowed to fall down and stay there when I suffered disappointment.  Apparently, something was bred into me by my heroes, my mother and daddy, a river deep inside me that carried strength from which I could draw what I needed to stand up and continue to knock down the obstacles facing me.


I was not a religious person for many years.  In hindsight (here we go again!), I now see that our Lord Jesus was there all along.  He didn't give up on me.  He literally saved me from danger many times, and I'm not going to recount those here - they're too frightening.

And then, I found my faith when began attending Mass with my Catholic husband.  I loved the reverence of it, the honor of being in God's house and singing and saying all the prayers to revere him, Jesus and Mother Mary.  It took about three years for my marriage to be blessed.  Then it was on to RCIA.


I loved those classes.  We had a great group of people who wanted to truly BE a part of THE CHURCH and THE FAITH!  The day I was baptized was one of the happiest days of my life. BUT, I still had not truly EMBRACED Catholicism.  I was a haphazard "attend Mass on Sunday mornings" and that was about it.  Through a health crisis in 2005, a time when I began praying fervently for healing but continued to grow worse until I cried out "WHY WON'T YOU HELP ME?", I found God, I mean, I REALLY found God.

I tell people that God brought me home, but not until he brought me to my knees.  The infection was tremendously painful and I was sick for a full 8 months.  I cannot describe the 12 days in the hospital, then going home and having a PICC line for 8 weeks giving me heavy antibiotics to fight the infection.  I couldn't walk for the sheer pain of lowering my right leg.  I was confined to bed or a very nice leather recliner that my Daddy bought for me when he came out and saw how sick I was.  I'll never forget the night everyone was gathering for dinner and my Daddy made me a plate, even though I had not had any appetite for months.  He preciously and delicately presented the plate to me saying, "see darlin', I put just a little of everything on there for you."  He was so proud and so loving. That is a great memory.  Well, I ate every bite of the food on the plate!  And in time, I got well.

I brought up my children to be righteous, honest and Godly.  But something happened along the way, and I am still beating myself up about it.  I am and have been suffering the worst worry you can imagine for a few years now.  I've done all I could to rectify the situation, to no avail.  It has only worsened.  In my heart, I know that I have to FULLY give this to God, and today, I have.

I spent three hours working in my gardens, watering, trimming and feeding the rose bushes. I transplanted two hostas, and I have a severe back issue that means I should never have been digging with a shovel.  But, I had frustration, lots of it, to work through.  Throughout the entire time, which was hours, I prayed the Rosary over and over and over again.  I'd look at the sky as I prayed, wondering if I might see my Mother in heaven.  A feeling came over me that nearly knocked me off my feet when I closed my eyes and saw her there.

Heavenly Mother hears my pleas, and she is fighting on my behalf.  Jesus and the Lord are hearing me.  And somehow, I gave it up.  I gave it to God.  There is nothing more that I can do except pray, and I've been doing that a very long time.  I know through experience that answers don't always come right away, so it bothers me not that I have prayed for an answer for so long.  The answer is: "Give it to me, child, because I have control over it and you need not fret any longer."


Reality bites, and sometimes it bites hard!  Standing firm is difficult, sometimes the most difficult thing one can do, but I have NEVER let down those who depend on me and I won't do it now.  My prayers continue and are full of FAITH.  I know what must be done and I will do it.  I have to.  When reality bites me, I thank God that I had found Him and that He has forgiven me many transgressions and loves me more and more every day.  

He loves us all and He is always right there beside each of us. So when reality bites, turn your heart to the heavens and pray with utmost sincerity.  God hears and he will answer, but it will be in His time, not ours.  That is what faith is all about.  KNOWING, BELIEVING, and LIVING IT!

God bless you and may each day bring you joy and happiness!


Love,
Abbey

TODAY'S WISDOM

“Anti-intellectualism has been a constant thread winding its way through our political and cultural life, nurtured by the false notion that democracy means that 'my ignorance is just as good as your knowledge.'” ― Isaac Asimov

"I've always been a fan of reality by majority vote."- Stephen Colbert

POSITIVE THOUGHT


Your life is a journey ahead of you.
Each day is a new beginning.
Yesterday is a friend that will guide you.

There will be good times and bad times;
Cherish the good, because they make life sweet,
But be thankful for the bad,
For through them you come to know
The important things in life
And the meaning of life.
There will be times when you face
Difficult decisions,
And you won’t know which way to turn.
The important thing is that you make a choice,
And move forward.

There will be times that test your strength and endurance,
But don’t give up;
Refuse to accept defeat,
For perseverance is the key to success.
there will be times when you are hurt by love.
Forgive those who hurt you
So that your heart will be free to love again.
There will be times when you make mistakes.
Remember that mistakes are not a reflection of your self-worth,
But of your humanity.
Nor do they make you less of a person.
Because of the lessons you’ve learned,
You’ve grown and become wiser.

There will be times when your search for happiness
Leads to frustration and disappointment,
But don’t stop believing in happiness.
Being happy with yourself goes a long way toward
Knowing happiness in your life.
There will be times when life seems unfair,
But don’t allow it to make you bitter
And steal your joy.
Nothing is worth this.
When fear stands in the way of reaching out for your dreams,
Confront them and you will conquer them.

There will be times when your faith is shaken,
But don’t despair,
It will rise up and carry you above the storm and to victory…. 

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Copyright  © 1996 By Nancye Sims

Monday, April 23, 2012

POSITIVE THOUGHTS

  
You control the direction of your life.  Only your self-concept limits you from achieving your fullest capacity.  Since changes in behavior generally precede changes in attitude, action directed toward your vision will increase your sense of purpose and belief in the possibility of success.

How can you develop a self-concept linked to your untapped potential?  First, you can decide on the kind of life you would like to lead in ten or fifteen years.  This will give you a standard for making decisions about current activities and will reduce the inclination to compare yourself unfavorably to others.  Learn to ask, "How would I handle  this situation were I the person I hope to become?"  And then take action in line with your vision.

If an activity has no relationship to your vision, you may realize that you don't want to choose it.  Would the person that you want to be take on those extra tasks, drive a particular automobile, engage in particular business practices?  Defining your vision will minimize your indecision in making choices about matters unrelated to your goals.

Many people promise themselves that some day they are going to "let go" and do what they want to do.  Unfortunately, the day never comes.  Only when circumstances push them to a point where they have "nothing to lose" do they do what they have always wanted to do.

Friday, April 20, 2012

TEACH YOUR CHILDREN WELL

1.     My Parents taught me TO APPRECIATE A  JOB WELL DONE .
"If you're going to kill each other, do it outside... I just finished cleaning."

 
2. My Parents taught me RELIGION.
"You better pray that will come out of the carpet."

3.  My Parents taught me about TIME TRAVEL.
"If you don't straighten up, I'm going to knock you into the middle of next week!"

 
4. My Parents taught me LOGIC.
"  Because I said so, that's why."


5. My Parents taught me MORE LOGIC
"If you fall out of that swing and break your neck, you're not going to the store with me."


6. My Parents taught me FORESIGHT.
"Make sure you wear clean underwear, in case you're in an accident."


7. My Parents taught me IRONY.
"Keep crying, and I'll give you something to cry about."

 
8.  My Parents taught me about the  science of OSMOSIS .
"Shut your mouth and eat your supper."


9. My Parents taught  me about CONTORTIONISM.
"Will you look at that dirt on the back of your neck!"


10. My Parents taught me about STAMINA.
"You'll sit there until all that spinach is gone."


11.  My Parents taught me about WEATHER.
"This room of yours looks as if a tornado went through it."


12. My Parents taught me about HYPOCRISY.
"If I told you once, I've told you a million times. Don't exaggerate!"


13. My Parents taught me the CIRCLE OF LIFE.
"I brought you into this world, and I can take you out...”


14. My Parents taught me about BEHAVIOR MODIFICATION.
"Stop acting like your father!"

15. My Parents taught me about ENVY.
"There are millions of less fortunate children in this world who don't have wonderful parents like you do."


16. My Parents taught me about ANTICIPATION.
"Just wait until we get home."


17. My Parents taught me about RECEIVING.
"You are going to get it when you get home!"


18. My Parents taught me MEDICAL SCIENCE.
"If you don't stop crossing your eyes, they are going to get stuck that way."


19. My Parents taught me ESP.
"Put your sweater on; don't you think I know when you are cold?"


20.  My Parents taught me HUMOR.
"When that lawn mower cuts off your toes, don't come running to me."

21. My Parents taught me HOW TO BECOME AN ADULT.
"If you don't eat your vegetables, you'll never grow up." 


22. My Parents taught me GENETICS.
"You're just like your father."


23. My Parents taught me about my ROOTS.
"Shut that door behind you.  Do you think you were born in a barn?"


24. My Parents taught me WISDOM.
"When you get to be my age, you'll understand."


And my favorite:  25.  My Parents taught me about JUSTICE.
"One day you'll have kids, and I hope they turn out just like you
!”

POSITIVE THOUGHTS

Promise yourself 
to be so strong    
    that nothing can     
disturb your           
peace of mind.          

     To talk health, happiness   
and prosperity                  
to every person you meet.          

To make all your friends                    
feel that there is something in them.             

To look at the sunny side of everything                     
and make your optimism come true.                                

    To think only of the best, to work only for the best                
   and expect only the best.                                   

To be enthusiastic about the success of others                     
  as you are about your own.                                           

To forget the mistakes of the past and press on to   
greater achievements of the future.                   

    To wear a cheerful countenance at all times       
       and give every living creature you meet a smile. 

                 To give so much time to the improvement of yourself 
             that you have no time to criticise others.              

    To be too large for worry, too noble for anger,   
too strong for fear and too happy                     
to permit the presence of trouble.  

Thursday, April 19, 2012

WHAT DO WHITE PEOPLE DO, MR. PRESIDENT?


REST IN PEACE, OLD FRIEND


Dick never grew up either. He used to say he was
the oldest teenager he'd ever met!
Gonna miss him, especially at the NYC
New Year's Eve Ball Drop.
I may not even watch it anymore. 
It will never be the same.
Gosh, I loved that guy!


POSITIVE THOUGHT

What makes your soul sing and your heart dance?
Everyone has a song in their heart.
Everyone has a reason for being here and a season for making their highest, greatest most auspicious contribution.
No one knows what that is or when that is for anyone else.
Only our own heart knows what and when it is for us.
Your heart wants to sing. Don't die with your music still within you.
There is a reason for everything and a purpose to your life.
Too many fail to listen to the song in their heart and therefore fail to find their purpose and their part.
What makes your soul sing and your heart dance? Actually you heart is your soul and you are both!
Ask this one question of yourself but don't be in a hurry to answer it.
Live in the question for a day, a week, a month.
Let it invite your heart to speak to you.
And when you are absolutely sure what your heart is saying is true then begin to invoke the changes necessary in your life so that you live in alignment with your song.
Be patient with this.
Innerspace

JERUSALEM

A Must See!! This is pretty awesome!

 

Jerusalem | Filmed in Imax 3D from JerusalemTheMovie on Vimeo.

Tuesday, April 17, 2012

BIG GOVERNMENT


BOOK REVIEW

AN ANGEL TO WATCH OVER ME
by: Joan Wester Anderson


Nothing can warm a heart more than the thoughts and words that come from a child.  Joan Wester Anderson, author of several books about angels, has added ten new stories to her collection of stories, "An Angel To Watch Over Me".  There are oodles of stories of the unexplained GOOD things that have possibly saved a child's life or made a child who was afraid know that they were not alone, but in their presence, a "guardian angel" to watch over them.  The stories are short and you can read and read, and before you know it, you've read the entire book.

These short stories reaffirm that God is always watching over us, not just the children, but all of us. With children, their minds are not so cluttered with the responsibilities of being a grown-up that they do not know where their blessing originated, they just know it was there and at times unexplainable.  There are also parents of the children to attest to the unexplained "miracles" that occurred when a child was in danger only to be pulled to safety.

I found this book delightful and uplifting; and, I whole heartedly recommend "An Angel To Watch Over Me" and pray you will pick up your own copy and give it a read.  It is both uplifting and reinforcing of our FAITH, which is a Faith built on that which we cannot see, but know is there!

Thank you, Joan Wester Anderson, for the opportunity to read your book and review it!  God bless you!

Abbey

SHOUT OUT . . .

Hello Trussville!!

THIS DAY'S . . .


How great is the contrast between that forgiveness to which we lay claim from God towards us, and our temper towards others!  God, we expect, will forgive us great offences, offences many times repeated; and will forgive them freely, liberally, and from the heart.  But we are offended at our neighbor, perhaps, for the merest trifles, and for an injury only once offered; and we are but half reconciled when we deem to forgive.  Even an uncertain humor, an ambiguous word, or a suspected look, will inflame our anger; and hardly any persuasion will induce us for a long time to relent.

Henry W. Thornton
This Day's Verse
 
But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.
 
Romans 5:8
The New King James Version

Monday, April 16, 2012

I (ABBEY) HAVE ALWAYS BEEN A STORM

I lived in Los Angeles, California through the decade of the 1970's.  I moved there when I was 19 years old.  I was married at the time with a two-year-old little girl, and struggling to hold onto a man who turned out to be both abusive, mentally and physically, and completely unfaithful. Please, don't pity me, it's just part of the story. 

The 70's were a very "happening" time, especially in music.  Fleetwood Mac's "Mystery to Me" was already a fairly decent hit, but then Lindsey Buckingham and Stevie Nicks joined the band and the music skyrocketed into this fabulous oribital trip through our universe.  Everybody was listening to it. Back then, it was vinyls or cassette tapes.

I fell in love immediately with Stevie Nicks.  Her voice was unlike anything I'd ever heard, and the songs that she and the other members of the band were writing were phenomenal.  We just played the "Fleetwood Mac" album over and over, and then "Rumors" came out and blew everyone away. I recall sitting right in front of the speakers and cranking up the volume so I could sing with Stevie, though I certainly did not have her vibrato.

Music has played one of THE most important roles in my life. I took piano for six years, and of course, fell in love in February 1964 with The Beatles and it grew from there and is still growing. To try and discuss every artist that I love would be an effort in futility - it would never end.  Suffice to say, however, that Stevie is the musical love of my life.  She and I, both,"... have always been a storm ..."  We were young, and oh, so frail, hearts broken so easily and slow to mend. This is just a glimpse into my youth, which I now realize that, sadly, I took too much for granted.



"STORMS"
Fleetwood Mac

Every night that goes between
I feel a little less
As you slowly go away from me
This is only another test

Every night you do not come
Your softness fades away
Did I ever really care that much
Is there anything left to say

Every hour of fear I spend
My body tries to cry
Living through each empty night
A deadly calm inside

I haven't felt this way I feel
Since many a year ago
But in those years and the lifetimes past
I did not deal with the road

And I did not deal with you I know
Tho the love has always been
So I search to find an answer there
So I can truly win

Every hour of fear I spend
My body tries to cry
Living through each empty night
A deadly calm inside

So I try to say
Goodbye my friend
I'd like to leave you with something warm
But never have I been a blue calm sea
I have always been a storm
Always been a storm
Always been a storm
I have always been a storm

We were frail

She said,
"Everynight he will break your heart"
I should have known from the first
I'd be the broken-hearted

I loved you from the start
Save us...
And not all the prayers in the world -- could save us

Things That Make Me Go "Hmmmm....."

I am so far behind on posting those little anecdotes that friends send to me.  This is just the start of my Monday .... I have water aerobics and then workout on the Nautilus! That high school reunion is only about 3 months away, so I have much work to do on this old body so that I will look nice to my old friends that I have not seen in over 40 years!  Best of all, my very best friend from high school was found when I was surfing my high school website.  I called her and it was like we picked up right where we left off.  Her name is Brenda and I cannot wait to see her!























Friday, April 13, 2012

DEEP THOUGHTS




Very puzzled by the blog traffic focusing on my old posts from last year and the year before? Is there a message in this? Possibly .....

TEST OF FIRE: ELECTION 2012


THIS DAY'S . . .



There are two ways of spreading light- to be the candle or the mirror that reflects it.
 
Edith Wharton
This Day's Verse
 
But those who trust in the LORD will find new strength.  They will soar high on wings like eagles.  They will run and not grow weary.  They will walk and not faint.
 
Isaiah 40:31
The New Living Translation
This Day's Smile
 
I know God will not give me anything I can't handle.  I just wish that He didn't trust me so much.

Mother Teresa

Thursday, April 12, 2012

LIFE LESSONS ....


To celebrate growing older, I once wrote the 45 lessons life taught me.
It is the most-requested column I've ever written.  My odometer rolls over to 50 this week, so here's an update:


1.  Life isn't fair, but it's still good.
2.  When in doubt, just take the next small step.
3.  Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.
4.  Don't take yourself so seriously.  No one else does.
5.  Pay off your credit cards every month.
6.  You don't have to win every argument.  Agree to disagree.
7.  Cry with someone.  It's more healing than crying alone.
8.  It's OK to get angry with God.  He can take it.
9.  Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck.
10.  When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.
11.  Make peace with your past so it won't screw up the present.
12.  It's OK to let your children see you cry.
13.  Don't compare your life to others'.  You have no idea what their journey is all about.
14.  If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn't be in it.
15.  Everything can change in the blink of an eye.  But don't worry; God never blinks.
16.  Life is too short for long pity parties.  Get busy living, or get busy dying.
17.  You can get through anything if you stay put in today.
18.  A writer writes.  If you want to be a writer, write.
19.  It's never too late to have a happy childhood.  But the second one is up to you and no one else.
20.  When it comes to going after what you love in life, don't take no for an answer.
21.  Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie.  Don't save it for a special occasion.  Today is special.
22.  Overprepare, then go with the flow.
23.  Be eccentric now.  Don't wait for old age to wear purple.
24.  The most important sex organ is the brain.
25.  No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
26.  Frame every so-called disaster with these words:  "In five years, will this matter?"
27.  Always choose life.
28.  Forgive everyone everything.
29.  What other people think of you is none of your business.
30.  Time heals almost everything.  Give time time.
31.  However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
32.  Your job won't take care of you when you are sick.  Your friends will.  Stay in touch.
33.  Believe in miracles.
34.  God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn't do.
35.  Whatever doesn't kill you really does make you stronger.
36.  Growing old beats the alternative - dying young.
37.  Your children get only one childhood.  Make it memorable.
38.  Read the Psalms.  They cover every human emotion.
39.  Get outside every day.  Miracles are waiting everywhere.
40.  If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else's, we'd grab ours back.
41.  Don't audit life.  Show up and make the most of it now.
42.  Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.
43.  All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.
44.  Envy is a waste of time.  You already have all you need.
45.  The best is yet to come.
46.  No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
47.  Take a deep breath.  It calms the mind.
48.  If you don't ask, you don't get.
49.  Yield.

SCRIPTURE FOR TODAY



I chose this Scripture for Today because it's a common human failure to judge others without realizing it.  Try to focus on your thoughts and feelings toward others and decide if you are judging them. If you are, then you know what you need to do:



"
Judge not, that you be not judged. For with the judgment you pronounce 
you will be judged, and with the measure you use 
it will be measured to you.   
~Matthew 7:1-2

Wednesday, April 11, 2012

PRAYER FOR THE PERSECUTED ...

PRAYER FOR THE PERSECUTED
CHRISTIAN SUDANS
O Lord God, your Son Jesus Christ suffered
and died for us.
In his resurrection he restores life
and peace in all creation.
Comfort, we pray, all victims of intolerance and those oppressed by their fellow humans.
Remember in your kingdom those who have died.

Lead the oppressors towards compassion and
give hope to the suffering.

Through the same Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen
.

ABBEY'S LOVES ..... ♥

I'm on a Stevie Nicks trip today ........ the love of my life of female vocalists ♥ Somehow, a lot of her lyrics seem as though they were written just for me .... not narcissistic, just that these kinds of things stop you in your tracks and you soak them in like thirst for water. She's soothing of my highs and my lows. That's my short essay about Stevie .....


LIFE LESSONS

How to Keep a Disagreement From Becoming an Argument
 
Welcome the disagreement.  Remember the slogan, "When two partners always agree, one of them is not necessary."  If there is some point you haven't thought about, be thankful if it is brought to your attention.  Perhaps this disagreement is your opportunity to be corrected before you make a serious mistake.

Distrust your first instinctive impression.
  Our first natural reaction in a disagreeable situation is to be defensive.  Be careful.  Keep calm and watch our for your first reaction.  It may be you at your worst, not your best.

Control your temper.
  Remember, you can measure the size of a person by what makes him or her angry.

Listen first
Give your opponents a chance to talk.  Let them finish.  Do not resist, defend, or debate.  This only raises barriers.  Try to build bridges of understanding.  Don't build higher barriers of misunderstanding.

Look for areas of agreement
.  When you have heard your opponents out, dwell first on the points and areas on which you agree.

Be honest.
  Look for areas where you can admit error and say so.  Apologize for your mistakes.  It will help disarm your opponents and reduce defensiveness.

Promise to think over your opponents' ideas and study them carefully
And mean it.  Your opponents may be right.  It is a lot easier at this stage to agree to think about their points than to move rapidly ahead and find yourself in a position where your opponents can say:  "We tried to tell you, but you wouldn't listen."

Thank your opponents sincerely for their interest
.  Anyone who takes the time to disagree with you is interested in the same things you are.  Think of them as people who really want to help you, and you may turn your opponents into friends.

Postpone action to give both sides time to think through the problem
.  Suggest that a new meeting be held later that day or the next day, where all the facts may be brought to bear.  In preparation for this meeting, ask yourself some hard questions:

Could my opponents be right?  Partly right?  Is there truth or merit in their position or argument?  Is my reaction one that will relieve the problem, or will it just relieve any frustration?  Will my reaction drive my opponents further away or draw them closer to me?  Will my reaction elevate the estimation good people have of me?  Will I win or lose?  What price will I have to pay if I win?  If I am quiet about it, will the disagreement blow over?  Is this difficult situation an opportunity for me? 

Saturday, April 07, 2012

WHY WE NEED REDEMPTION, by Elizabeth Scalia

This is HEARTBREAKING! You can read the full article after you finish these first couple of paragraphs.

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This ugly, deplorable, heartbreaking picture showed up in my facebook feed.
That’s a beautiful baby, who looks to be full-term. And there are thousands if not millions of people who cannot have babies, and who would quickly claim this little one for their own. In a world where the fullness of love is constantly being challenged by hate and emptiness, the love therein created — parent-to-child-to-grandparents and so on — would have brought a little more affirmation, a little more “yes” into a world so full of “no”; more “us” for a world full of “me.”

One wants to think that the mother of this child is someone who was frightened, panic-stricken, momentarily out of her mind. And for all we know this baby was taken from her and thrown away by someone in her life who intimidates and controls her. Perhaps the baby died at birth, and the distraught mother made a poor choice.
One wants to think that because considering the alternative — that someone could deliver this child and then simply toss him aside — takes too much.

Continued Here....

Thursday, April 05, 2012

HOLY THURSDAY - FREE MEAL

Thursday, April 5, 2012, Holy Thursday

Exodus 12:1-8, 11-14, 1 Corinthians 11:23-26, Psalm 116:12-13, 15-18, John 13:1-15 Link to Readings --> http://www.usccb.org/bible/readings/040512.cfm



A FREE MEAL

"I am Your servant, the son of Your handmaid; You have loosed my bonds."
-Psalm 116:16

When Jesus became a human being, "He emptied Himself and took the form of a slave" (Phil 2:7). Before Jesus died for us, He washed His disciples' feet (Jn 13:5). This was the work of a slave. Jesus was sold for thirty pieces of silver (Mt 26:15; Zec 11:12), the price of a gored slave (Ex 21:32). Jesus died by crucifixion, the manner of death reserved for slaves. From the beginning to the end of His life on earth, He took on our enslaved human condition so we could share in His free divine nature (2 Pt 1:4). "Before the feast of Passover" (Jn 13:1), Jesus did the work of a slave so that we can celebrate forever the Passover, the feast of freedom from slavery (see Ex 12:31).

If you receive Holy Communion with faith and love at the new Passover, the Mass (see Lk 22:15), you are truly free (see Jn 8:36) from sin, death (Jn 6:54), Satan, hell, damnation, addictions, and self-hatred. On this Holy Thursday, receive Holy Communion and begin or continue a series of daily Communions which will be a perpetual (see Ex 12:14) jubilee year - endless, total, and ultimate freedom (see Lk 4:19).

Prayer: Father, may I want to receive Jesus in Holy Communion every day of my life.

Promise: "The Lord Jesus on the night in which He was betrayed took bread, and after He had given thanks, broke it and said, 'This is My body, Which is for you. Do this in remembrance of Me.' "  ~1 Cor 11:23-24

Praise: "To You will I offer sacrifice of thanksgiving, and I will call upon the name of the Lord" (Ps 116:17). "O Sacrament most holy, O Sacrament divine, all praise and all thanksgiving be every moment Thine."

THIS DAY'S . . . HOLY THURSDAY


 
    
    
This Day's Thought


 
Never tolerate the idea of martyrdom about the cross of Jesus Christ.  The cross was a superb triumph in which the foundations of hell were shaken.  There is nothing more certain in time or eternity than what Jesus Christ did on the cross: He switched the whole of the human race back into a right relationship with God.

Oswald Chambers
This Day's Verse
 
After this, Jesus, knowing that all things were now accomplished, that the Scripture might be fulfilled, said, "I thirst!"  Now a vessel full of sour wine was sitting there; and they filled a sponge with sour wine, put it on hyssop, and put it to His mouth.  So when Jesus had received the sour wine, He said, "It is finished!"  And bowing His head, He gave up His spirit.
 
John 19:28-30
The New King James Version

Wednesday, April 04, 2012

PRAYERS FOR HOLY WEEK - WEDNESDAY

WEDNESDAY
Daily Lent Prayer
“Lord, open my lips,
and my mouth shall declare your praise.”
Collect:
Look kindly, Lord, we pray,
on the devotion of your people,
that those who by self-denial are restrained in body
may the fruit of good works be renewed in mind.
Through our Lord Jesus Christ, your Son,
who lives and reigns with you in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, for ever and ever.
The Readings:  Jonah 3:1-10; Psalm 51:3-4, 12-13, 18-19; Luke 11:29-32

Daily Meditation:


Hear our prayer.

The Wednesdays and Fridays of Lent take on a more penitential tone.

Our longing intensifies.

We know we have to work hard to resist temptation

and to change some of our bad habits.

We know that spiritual renewal won't come easy.

But we know that all we will ultimately be able to do

will come from God's inspiration - as a gift.

So we ask from a deeper and deeper place in our hearts.
We listen to the wonderful children's story about Nineveh.
They responded to God's word and repented.
My sacrifice, O God, is a contrite spirit;
a heart contrite and humbled, O God, you will not spurn.
~Psalm 51
 
Intercessions:

Blessed be God, the giver of salvation, who decreed that mankind should become a new creation in himself, when all would be made new.  With great confidence let us ask him:

   Lord, renew us in your Spirit.


Lord, you promised a new heaven and a new earth; renew us daily through your Spirit,

 - that we may enjoy your presence for ever in the heavenly Jerusalem.


Help us to work with you to make this world alive with your Spirit,

 - and to build on earth a city of justice, love and peace.


Free us from all negligence and sloth,

 - and give us joy in your gifts of grace.


Deliver us from evil,

 - and from slavery to the senses, which blinds us to goodness

Closing Prayer:


Dear Lord,
I know you receive what is in my heart.
Let me be inspired by your words
and by the actions of your son, Jesus.
Guide me to make sacrifices this Lent
in the spirit of self-denial
and with greater attention to you
and to those around me.
Help me to believe that you will grant me this
because of the sacrifice Jesus made for me.
May the Lord bless us,
protect us from all evil
and bring us to everlasting life.
Amen.

Tuesday, April 03, 2012

DAILY LENTEN PRAYER AND MEDITATIONS

I've been posting the daily prayers for Holy Week, so please scroll down and don't miss this wonderful opportunity to get in touch with Jesus Christ!

Grace and Blessings on Your Path,
Abbey